I like the word dad because Father is in Heaven. But like you said, when i see those two pink lines again, i know it will be my baby coming back to me. I havent spoken to my parents yet. Im at a loss. And then I panicked. I feel I would regret it everyday for the rest of my life. After decades of keeping her . Maybe you're worried about money or becoming a mother or just getting through tomorrow. I dont want to regret terminating my baby but what if I get into a situation where I cant get out of? This moved me. Your dad looks at me and then the tests before putting them down, one in my lap and the other in his, but it falls in between us how symbolic. I stand beside her and encourage her that she made the best decision she could. All the what-ifs led me to deciding that the best decision for me would be to terminate. I had one almost six years ago and I still cry about it. I just wanted to say thank-you for sharing your story. Abortions do not occur in this time period, so the phrase is contradictory. I might have forgotten what I learned and failed my license exam in the future since Id have to take a leave. I think about it most days (I would be due on 30th May which coincidentally is my birthday) but I dont dwell on it anymore and do appreciate that for me it just wasnt the right time and I was not ready or prepared to give a child the life it deserves. My baby fever was at an all time high I was even looking at baby clothes. You were there, so was my existence. Im 22 and I recently went through my 2nd abortion. And make you scream and shout, I will make my decision within the next 2 weeks. My boyfriend is full of regret and wishes he wouldnt have said hurtful things. I got an abortion two years ago and while I know it was the right decision it is something I still mourn, that was my first and my only as well and this article HITS HOME. Thank you for sharing your story, I made a promise to myself my decision was not in vain and Im almost done with my bachelors degree. Im a mother to 5 boys.. 2 from my previous marriage that I share 50/50 custody of and 3 littles that are with me 24/7. Even my close friends dont know this time. Ever. Then told me I was over reacting for waking up in the middle of the night over and over crying. Like something to be dealt with, a burden that was his cross to bear. Maybe you feel deep regret, maybe it was a confusing time, maybe you didn't care at all. In my heart i know that baby would have deserved better, but is it ok to feel THat way? Says he can no longer trust me as I betrayed him for the past 10 years. I know my future would never have turned out as well as it had, had I not had the abortion :). She wrote this piece to destigmatize abortion and to offer a story of strength and hope to women and men alike. the world makes us feel weak. I'm your baby. She comes to me in my dreams at least once a week. I am so heartbroken. I wish I had advice or something magical to say to make everything all betterI dont. It means so much to see it spoken by another. She was already the mom of a young girl and in an abusive relationship. Ebony Angel B. 1 A letter to a woman considering abortion Dear Friend, I was thinking of you today. Can I ask what you ended up doing? I hope that helps you make the right decision for you. I told my mom who was not shocked and she said we should schedule it for the next day. When your raised in foster care it is because there is virtually no one else willing or able to care for you as a child. I know the abortion has made me realise how much of an amazing mum I am going to be but I am also so desperate to be a mummy and the loss in my gut cant be put into words. And I too pray from the core of my heart that you all get back your unborn ones. My significant other is leaving the decision to me and will support either way it goes but I just dont know what to do. I just him so much (I dreamt he was a boy) I feel like no one understands how I feel and the support I need to great of what other could provide. I am curious as wel. It takes courage to share your story, especially with so much honesty. Heartache and emptiness daily. Praying for all of you and I know now every situation is so different. I wish this decision wasnt so hard. It cant be easy and its hurtful for the man youre suppose to be with to embed abortion in your head after telling you, you two could try again. I think Ill visit an abortion clinic to avail of a medical abortion service because its difficult for me to survive if I have a child. At 18 weeks, April and her husband found out that their baby had lethal skeletal dysplasia. Im broken over this. He advised me continuing the pregnancy would be a danger and I decided more so on my own after talking with my mother if it was the right decision to make for the baby. And I like to think that only because they arent physically here doesnt mean Im not a mom. My arms ache for you. Her due date has passed now. I dont want to do this, but the dad is not ready and I am not able to care for a child alone at this point. My husband has made this time incredibly difficult for me. I need advice from someone, anyone. A letter to my unborn child - you deserve an explanation We named you to help us grieve for you By anonymous on 19/11/2013 surgical abortion abortion 18 weeks Firstly I need to tell you that me & your daddy have decided to name you. I want my baby so much but my family are pushing for a termination as I should be having a child when the timing is right. Id give anything to see my baby smile. Its nice to see other ladies have the same emotions and I know when the time is right my baby girl will come back to me (: This might be a bit forward and seem strange of me but I have been through this twice before so if you would like someone to talk to or any support you are welcome to contact me anytime x. I just had mine this afternoon. I feel my baby moving around and he doesnt understand what Im going through. Just found out im pregnant as of today 6/18/2019. You can also sign up as Sugar . As opposed to most elective . I want to experience the excitement of my first day at school She wo t talk to anyone as she feels she would be seen as weak. Im so torn and feel so alone. He made it clear that he did not want to have another child and truly no matter how bad I felt I wanted my baby, I did not want to do it by myself. Ive never allowed a man to make me feel like this. Labor would begin, usually within 12 hours, and the baby would be expelled. I want to start by saying that I am skeptical that it is a sincere post. Im 21, and I was 7 weeks pregnant last week but decided to terminate, after much deliberation. Raising her was not easy on my own but he convinced me to move back so he can have his family. I have an ultrasound which tells me you are a five-week-and-two-day-old single embryo. According to a webpage shared online by Crump, she has raised over $30,000 by Friday morning and will seek abortion care in North Carolina. My partner said he would support me either way but I knew deep down to him it might as well have been the end of the world. A week before the abortion he changed his mind and got attached to the baby. I know her from my dreams. And chips. And I havent heard from him since. Many of my patients have gone through the same thing, and it is never easy. Im in exactly the same situation as you and just dont know what to do. We done the best we could at the time, and thats all we can do. Hello Mommy, this is me, your baby- I had an abortion at 5 weeks 6 days, pill as well. He keeps trying to make me have the child and give my child full custody and I feel like he wants to rob me because I cant afford to have a child of my own. Theres no good option. I hope to someday get to tell my child face to face that I love them and Im sorry and they deserved better. I did regret it but I cant imagine hows my life would had been if I didnt do it. I feel like the world makes us feel weak, like we cant handle both our dreams and a child that will love us and need us more than we could understand. The connection happened from day one. But in reality I know who the dad was because of what had happened on the night we spent together but it did not help my decision as I felt so ashamed. A heart touching letter from a unborn baby to his mother baby is very happy when he is conceived and think that his mother is world's best mom and he share his happiness with his mother telling her all his activities and growing stages in her tummy but his parents decide to abort this baby.. prayatn Follow Advertisement Advertisement Recommended Am i allowed to feel i did it for the baby? Im sad, but dont regret it. I havent gotten pregnant the last 2 years since being off birth control and we already have two children as it is. We chose 3 yrs ago to decide to be Childfree. I found out I was pregnant on September 23rd, 2 weeks before my 21st birthday. I love him so much it hurts I cant imagine my life without him, he filled a hole I didnt know I had. Xx. Everyone at work keeps getting pregnant and every time I hurt. And wham, I unexpectedly end up pregnant, at 41. I would never say that Im over it and my biggest regret is not being careful enough to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. All other content on this website is Copyright 2006-2023 FFP Inc. All rights reserved. In his remarks before Congress, Dr. Levatino describes in gruesome detail the procedure of killing a 24-week-old unborn baby. I was accepted into a Masters program the day before. Exactly a month later I find out Im pregnant again. I am with someone who I cant bring myself to tell and I am starting to feel emotionally and mentally effected by it. We have only one flight of stairs, but I must have stood and then sat at least twenty times, unsure how to greet him. My boyfriend stayed with me but after a while he started blaming me and our relationship change . Let me tell you some things about me. In the last twenty minutes of my lunch break, I walked to Walgreens and bought the test thinking the employees must assume Im really irresponsible (I guess I was?). Yes, he did everything he was supposed to and yes the tests afterwards declared him sterile. Babies need around the clock care for decades; they are nothing like pets. Oh mommy, I can't go on anymore help me 17 years have gone by since you made that fateful decision. Abandonment threatI couldnt believe it. Stay strong and stay encouraged. I dont want to lose you. Thank you so much for writing posting this just hope and pray that one day I will get a chance to be a mom again. Have always used protection. Im Ill never be sure if I made the right decision, but Im financially incompetent right now. It's just cruel." I feel she was a girl. So we did. My name is John, and. And to be honest, your dad and I werent using protection. I know my baby deserves a life I couldnt of given her now or at that time and I know one day she will come back to me, I get excited when i think about meeting her finally one day when we are both ready, I wish I had support here so I could cry to someone who gets it, Im 23 and I had my abortion at 5 weeks and three days in April. I was six weeks pregnant . I was so confused, so afraid and I let fear take over my life. I wanted to give her grandchildren but that couldnt be my only reason for keeping the baby. Im lost and have a follow up appointment in 2 weeks to test my hcg levels by that time is will be 8 weeks almost 9. It is killing me to know she is alive now and she wont be in a few days. January 22, 2021 - The anniversary of Roe v Wade - 48 years of legal abortion in all fifty states. The baby has been name Baby Amanda Marie, for the name Amanda means "she who ought to be loved." Maybe you feel as if your world has been turned upside-down. We want to expand our family but we werent expecting to do it so soon. Truth is, I have no job, I am back in school with one child taken care of by my parents, I cannot bring another right now and of I did this new opportunity would go away. Thank you for sharing. I pray one day my baby will cone back to me. fTo tell you the truth I can't explain how happy I am to know that you are my mom. Xoxo , AUSTRALIA, My boyfriend does not understand either. On the day of the appointment I cried so much I couldnt get myself to do it and as time went on I decided to keep him. I cant imagine what I would have done if I wasnt able to have an abortion. And the dad is on pills really bad and i didnt find out until it was too late. I have tried to persuade her to look at forums or see a psychiatrist to help her through the guilt but she doesnt want to be associated with the stigma attached with it. I m 21 years old and just find out that I m pragnant for 2-3 weeks. I know what I will do and why I feel it is the best choice I can make, but I will never forget this little tiny creature that has visited me and wanted so much to be my family, as I so wanted to be hers/his. Im not pregnant. I went into the first floor bathroom and peed on that little white-tipped stick.